It
was the most magical day of my life. My mucus plug released around 8 A.M. as we
headed out the door for our morning walk to the health-food store. Every
morning of my pregnancy, I visualized that upcoming dawn when my newborn would
be tucked in a sling instead of inside me.
My
contractions were five minutes apart and extremely pleasurable. They reminded
me of that "opening" feeling that accompanies an orgasm. I didn't sit down and
focus until early evening, as my children prepared for bed. Once alone,
feelings of sexual pleasure surrounded me and I felt the desire to create
climaxes, with clitoral stimulation, to accompany the inner rhythmic orgasms
produced by my baby's gentle touch.
All
of a sudden I felt drawn to a hot bathtub. Just as I settled in, my organic
grape juice by my side (truly the only necessary tool in the birthing
process!), I experienced one intense expansion that basically let me know that
I had moments - not minutes - to prepare. Where did I want to birth? Did I want
my children awake? Was I really following through with this unassisted
homebirth? After all, my first was a C-section, and my second was a homebirth
resulting in bossy friends, hemorrhoids, lots of pain, and ripping to boot.
Would the advice of Laura Shanley in her book,
Unassisted Childbirth, work for me? Did I have the courage to cross the
finish-line?
I
stood up from the warm water and my water bag broke. As a homeschooling mother,
I felt responsible to share this experience with my daughters. I grabbed them
up and literally flew into the livingroom where I threw a plastic sheet on the
carpet, got down on all fours, and felt the next push made by my descending
child. My nine-year-old daughter, Sarah Lee, ran behind me as the next
"in-house" push sent Matthew's head out into the world. Sarah Lee checked that
the cord wasn't around his neck, so I could release him fully and confidently.
She caught him while her toddler sister blared out, "Oh, yuck! Blood and poop!
I'll get a rag to clean him up."
Moments
later, we all hopped back in the tub and waited for the cutting of his
umbilical cord. I simply snipped it with a pair of non-sterilized scissors,
didn't clamp off the ends...I have yet to observe a cat or dog doing so.
Soon
we got out of the tub and the girls sat in the rocker while I wrapped Matthew
up for them to hold. As I was passing him over I felt a swoosh and reached down
just in time to catch my placenta before it splattered all over the carpet.
After
a while, he showed interest in nursing. When I went to the bathroom I was
elated to learn I had not torn at all. There had been no pain throughout labor,
during birth, or after. My dream had come true because I created its reality,
thanks to the loving guidance of Unassisted Childbirth..
A
few hours later, we all crawled into our family bed and slept peacefully until
awakening for our usual morning walk to the health-food store, where Matthew
was placed on the scales to register a beautifully compact 6 pounds, 9 ounces.
There
were lots of rainbows that morning -- or were there? Maybe they resided in me,
thus that was all I could see. It was the most magical day of my life.