This,
our third, pregnancy was sailing along. We were again going to the birth center
where our now 2-year-old son, Cary, was born. We refused all but the most
routine of tests this time around. No ultrasounds or AFPs for this baby unless
there was a really good reason! At our second appointment, around 11 weeks, I
measured slightly larger than expected. We discussed an ultrasound but agreed
to wait for the next visit. By that time, my measurements were even a bit
smaller than expected.
Seven
months into the pregnancy my best friend, Terriann, and her family moved from
Pennsylvania to Alaska. Cary and I (and the baby of course) helped them drive
the nearly 5000 mile trip over 11 days. We ran into snow, high winds and lots
of other adventures along the way. The baby seemed to enjoy the whole trip and
I continued feeling great!
Though
it was hard leaving Terriann in Alaska, I knew we would get together again
soon. She had promised to act as our doula and had airline tickets planning to
arrive several days before our due date and staying almost two weeks beyond it.
Our
5-year-old daughter was born 8 days late with a 20+ hour labor in a hospital.
Cary arrived 11 days late with a day and a half of reasonably active labor. So
I was surprised when at 38+ weeks I awoke at about 2:15 AM in what I now call
"pre" labor - diarrhea, slight cramping, no defined contractions. By about 2:30
I was having regular contractions that were relatively mild. I spent the next
ten minutes or so telling myself I couldn't be in labor yet. I had only had an
hour of sleep and was expecting another prolonged labor. Terriann wasn't here
yet either.
I
got in the shower thinking the warm water would feel good and the contractions
got a bit stronger. I groaned through them, sometimes leaning against the
shower wall. Doug began timing them "for fun." They went from 5 to 4 minutes
pretty quickly, so we called our midwife and made arrangements to meet her at
the birth center. We were surprised things were moving so quickly this time.
What a nice change!
As
Doug was hanging up with the midwife, I had a much more intense contraction
with an overwhelming, out of nowhere, urge to push! I grunted to Doug that I
felt like I had to push and that I didn't know if we were going to make it to
the birth center. I tensed my whole body trying to resist the urge to push.
When I relaxed, at the end of that contraction, Kendall Grace literally slid
out and Doug caught her as I was still standing in the shower with the water
running. Kendall looked up into my eyes, cried a bit, then settled down. Doug
and I looked at each other and said something to the effect of - oh my God, we
had a baby. We were amazed! Then we took a minute to think - what do we do now.
Doug threw a towel over us and we shuffled her over to our bed. Not knowing how
long the cord was, I was afraid to stand up straight. lay down with Kendall on
my chest and we put lots of blankets on top of us. Doug called the midwife to
tell her we had a baby and see what to do next. We prepared to deliver the
placenta.
While
gathering more blankets and towels, Doug woke up Kyle and tried unsuccessfully
to rouse Cary. Now Kyle and our dog Bernie joined us in bed. As I felt a
contraction I pushed. A little fluid and a bit of the membrane came out. A few
minutes later I pushed with another contraction. I had been expecting a
"squishy little push," but we were all in for the surprise of our lives. I
thought, "Oh no, that's not a placenta... that's another head!" At the same
time, Doug was on the phone with the midwife saying, "Uh oh, there's another
one!" (We were NOT expecting twins.) Carlie Ann's head was delivered with that
push and the rest of her came with the next one. She wasn't crying right away,
but responded quickly to being rubbed while on my chest. Doug admits to making
sure a third baby wasn't on the way.
As
soon as we hung up from the midwife, we called Terriann, who was out for a
walk! Doug then talked our nurse in to our house via her car phone. We soon
reached Terriann and shared our wonderful, shocking story. The midwife arrived
shortly thereafter. The nurse and midwife attended us here including doing
several loads of laundry! They cut the cord and put the placenta in our
favorite "Chex Mix" bowl. Kyle was able to wake up Cary, who also joined us in
bed. Our friend Kathryn arrived next and made us a great pancake breakfast. By
this time, Carlie and Kendall had been nursing up a storm for quite a while!
Later our family doctor came to check us and declared us all to be doing great.
Terriann
changed her plans and was on the next plane to be with us. It was so special
having her here with us. We are so grateful for the tremendous support and fun
she brought with her. The fact that she also brought her 10 years of experience
as a lactation consultant and her personal experiences nursing her seven
children was a bonus. Kendall and Carlie were baptized at two weeks of age,
before their godmother Terriann had to return home to Alaska.
Some
clueless community members here think we planned this whole adventure at home,
which we definitely did not. As Doug says, "If I had planned this, I would have
ripped the shower curtain down and put it on the bed!"
It
was so wonderful to be at home for this entire experience. I cannot imagine
having gone to the hospital or even the birth center after such beautiful
births. It was by far the most peaceful birth we have had (so far). The only
thing more peaceful than the birth, is going to sleep each night nursing both
of our lovely daughters.
Kym
Smythe